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Unlocking the Secrets of a Perfect First Date: Proven Tips and Clever Strategies

For those looking at getting into a relationship, the first step is normally to go on the first date. For that man to actually invite you out on a date. Nowadays, I am seeing a trend of women asking men to go out on a date, they ask for the man’s hand in marriage, which I find awkward, but I guess it is okay, always go for what works for you. Anyway, the toughest point to get to is earning the privilege to go out on a date, and you want to make a good impression. You know how it is, ‘first impressions last,’ and so we want to make the best of it. In this blog, we talk about the proven tips and strategies that you can use to ensure that your first date is successful or works out as planned.

Show up on Time

The culture that you grew up in can greatly influence how you manage your time. Where I come from originally, we do not keep time, nobody ever keeps time. If you agree to meet someone somewhere for whatever reason, one of us or both of us would potentially be late. If we were to meet at 5:00pm, there is a high chance that we would both show up one hour later, or I’ll show up one hour later, and the person I am meeting would show up two hours later. It is a habit that everyone has, and it is hard to get out of it. However, not everyone can entertain lateness. It took me a long time to learn to respect other people’s time and show up at the time we agreed to meet.

Meeting your potential husband or wife for the first time is a big opportunity that should never be taken for granted. If you show up late on the first date, the other person will assume that you are not reliable and that you are not responsible either. If you are going to meet a woman, women take a lot of time to prepare before they step out of the house. Some women will go to the extent of buying new clothes, shoes, and a handbag just to make that first impression worthwhile. Women will go to the extent of spending money to get their hair and make-up done professionally so they may look presentable to you. Showing up late for someone who has gone through so much can never be taken lightly.

Women should also consider that a man would leave everything and make it on time to meet her. Showing up late makes the spirit grow weak. If the man had strong feelings for you, he may just change his mind about the whole dating situation.

Show up on time on your first date and always. Understand that people have other things to do, but they choose to meet you, do not take that for granted. Remember that the person you are going to meet may just be your future life partner, make the first impression perfect.

Keep Your Phone Away
Using your phone while on a dinner date for the first time may not be a good first impression, and not many people can accommodate that behavior. Unfortunately, your date may not even tell you that they do not feel comfortable, instead, he or she may keep quiet, and that could be the last time you see them. If you must use your phone, excuse yourself and let your date know that you need to use your phone. Once you are done, apologize for taking a moment to use your phone, even though you had excused yourself. Ensure you either put your phone on silent mode or simply avoid calls or texts during the date. It shows your date that you really wanted to be there, and it helps to give undivided attention.

Dress Up
It does help to show your date that you put in effort to look good for him or her. While you do not
have to go overboard and look like you came off a runway, make sure that you look presentable. Depending on where the date is happening, dress appropriately for the occasion. Wearing cocktail outfits for an outdoor date will look tacky and make things seem off, especially if your date has a keen eye for fashion.

Pay Attention

While on a date, do not be the only one who speaks, be a good listener and give your date time to talk before you respond. Do not listen to answer back, but listen to understand, then respond. When your date is talking, try never to interrupt them or talk while your date is talking, otherwise, you may end up saying what you did not plan to say. Not everyone is patient enough to put up with someone who talks without considering what the other person has to say.

Sometimes, you may try hard to pay attention to your date but you still do not get or understand what your date is saying. Be bold enough and ask them to repeat what he or she said in a respectful manner.
You ought to pay attention to your date because It will help you figure out what the other person’s intentions are and will come in handy when you want to figure out if you should accept an invitation to another date or not.

Do not Set Very High Standards

Oh well, it is okay to set standards, but what guidelines are you using for setting your standards. I have seen people, rise from humble beginnings and become great. Let’s use Lupita Nyong’o as an example. In this case, I do not even have to explain who Lupita is because we all know her, the world knows her.

When Lupita Nyong’o started her acting career in Kenya, people watched her movies, little shows here and there and she really stood out when she acted in a drama called sugar. She was great and very authentic but that was it. We may argue that she comes from a wealthy family, which is right, but when she was acting and probably doing her best, people did not care much. From the stories we heard, it was alleged that her then boyfriend left her for another actress, and within a short period of time, Lupita moved to America. She continued acting, and today, the world knows her by name. In other words, let’s just say that you should not judge a book by looking at its cover.

Women are always out looking for a stable man, a man who has his own house, drives an expensive car, is a graduate, has a stable job, or runs a successful business. If you are a man and you have less, you struggle to get a decent girlfriend and one who will love you for you.

Men also tend to appreciate a working class woman, beautiful according to their own standards, well-maintained, and if she is driving, that is an extra point for her.

Give the person you are meeting a chance, do not look for wealth, instead, you should look for potential. If your date is well educated, has a plan for his or her life, is focused, and seems to appreciate you as a person, that is what you need. In regards to money, you will join hands and build wealth together. Stay open minded and realize how lucky you may be to have the attention of the person sitting right next to you.

Dating may be a daunting experience. There might be a lot of pressure to perform and excel. Despite this, you can still have a fantastic date and possibly build a bond with someone. The suggestions mentioned above will help you prepare for your first date and I hope your first date marks the beginning of your beautiful life in love.

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