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Tips on how to put Yourself First in a Fast World

How to make yourself a priority

Family and social responsibilities can be so many that you forget yourself and always put the needs of others before your own. In this blog, we talk about tips that you can use to ensure that you always put yourself first for your personal well-being. If you are a wife, for instance, and you have children, you will naturally have the responsibility of taking care of your husband, children, and pets if you have any in the house. You will ensure that family laundry is always done, you will keep up with the children’s medical appointments and school activities, and especially if you do not have a supportive husband, check to make sure that the bills are up to date, make appointments to see the veterinarian for your pets, make sure dinner, lunches, and breakfast are always available for the family, and basically everything that happens in the house. If you are the firstborn in the family, it is your responsibility to take care of your siblings and parents too. It is not written down on paper that you have to, but you will just find yourself deep into it for the love of your family. If something happens to any member of the family, they will call you first and expect you to come up with a solution. At some point, the family becomes heavily reliant on you financially, and therefore you cannot do much to develop yourself. You may also have friends who practically take advantage of you. Whenever you go out, they make you pay the bills, and they pay the minimum. Some friends are never ashamed and will just make you pay all the bills. Some friends will never let you go to their houses but always want all the meetings to happen in your house. Now this is where you draw the boundaries, and if people cannot pay their bills, then what is the point of going out together? The scenarios we have talked about could easily lead you into depression. To ensure that you take care of yourself and guard your sanity, here are some strategies you should implement: Talk About It Talking will save you from a lot of trouble. The family could be demanding too much from you, and most of the time, they do not even realize how much the whole situation is affecting you. Call for a family meeting and talk about how you feel. Ask members of the family to help you out because you are feeling overwhelmed. Outline everything that you are doing, and encourage other family members to take responsibility. Make it clear to them that you are also human, and the baggage is too heavy on you. It may be surprising that you could be feeling tired, but nobody knows because you are not saying anything. So, its about time you break the silence and speak out. Give an Outline of What you Can do Let your family and friends know what you can do and how much you are willing or capable of supporting. If you are a wife, you may have a conversation about what you should do and what he should take care of as a man to support the family. As a working mom, you obviously need some me time to rest and just relax, and so does your husband. You may both decide when you each have your own free time to spend alone or away from home. In regards to house chores, you may decide who does what within the home; for instance, the husband can take the children to school, and the wife picks them up at the end of the day. In the evening, you make dinner, and your husband showers the children. Forgive Yourself for Your past There are many things that we have done that make us feel bad about our actions every time we go back in time. Well, whatever happened happened, and there is nothing you can do about it. Thinking about your past all the time will make your days very sad. It is easier said than done, but find a way to forgive yourself for your past and move on. It may take time, but you will get there eventually. Take Yourself Out on Dates Taking yourself out on a date is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. You may go to a restaurant or hotel of your choice, and since you are dating yourself, expensive and classy is all you deserve. Get to the restaurant, order your favorite meal and drinks, and enjoy. You may have your earphones to listen to music if you like and just relax. You are the best company you can ever have. Change your Wardrobe Life responsibilities may be too much, and you find yourself wearing the same clothes for years. Do not let this happen to you; remember, you are supporting everyone else financially, and therefore you can as well set a decent budget to change your wardrobe every year. When you are well dressed and look presentable, you will feel more confident. This does not necessarily mean that you should break your bank account, but just buy awesome pieces for yourself. Go for What you Want Sometimes we find ourselves not doing anything unless someone else validates it. You want to go get that masters degree, but you have to ask, and sometimes you could end up asking the wrong person, who will just discourage you from going to school. If you want to go away on vacation, you have to ask. The person you are asking could discourage you from going on vacation for their own selfish reasons. If your heart tells you to do something, as long as it is safe and legally acceptable, go for it without hesitation. Take care of yourself and enjoy your hard-earned cash.

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